10 Nov Taking Sexy Back
One of the goals of the Sexology Institute is to teach about sex, (OK, it’s actually THE goal). You may be thinking, “why do I need an ‘institute’ to teach me about sex, its everywhere: magazines, movies, television and the internet. However, there is media sex and then there is real sex, and here’s why it’s important to know the difference.
I once had a sweet new bride approach me after a workshop. After having had sex only a few times, she was concerned about being normal. She proceeded to sheepishly ask me if it was usual for “stuff to fall out” of her vagina after sex. (I would have laughed a little, but we sex professionals are trained to not do that whenever possible.) I went on to explain that unless a condom is used, that yes, semen and other vaginal discharge usually leaks out after sex. Her relieved response: “They don’t show that in the movies, do they!” She’s right, they leave that out of the romantic sex scenes in movies and books; the couple just lays there as if they’re not being slowing glued together or to the sheets.
Another disservice that women get from media sex is the message that their first experience will be amazing, toe curling, passionate sex that culminates in an extended massive orgasm. This unmet expectation makes women feel like there is something wrong with them when their first sexual experience doesn’t live up to that image. The reality is that sex is like most other activities in life–the more you try it, the better you get at it. It can take some women years to even have their first orgasm! Add to that the pressure to have movie-quality orgasms, and some women just give up, sacrificing their sexual satisfaction while letting their male partner have all the orgasms he wants. However, there is a problem with this. Most women eventually hit a stage in life where they become tired of being only a satisfier. Women want and need to be desired and satisfied themselves!
Fortunately, it’s never too late to learn something new. I had a female client who orgasmed for the first time in her 70’s! A goal of the Sexology Institute and Boutique is to take sexy back from the media. We want to teach women, men and couples what realistic sex is like. And it’s even better than the media portrays. The gift of sex can be one of the best gifts you can give each other. The more quality sex you have, the more bonded you become. As you continually offer this to one another, the love and passion you feel for your partner increases more and more. It is truly a gift.
Let the Sexology Institute and Boutique teach you how to take sexy back in your relationship. Whether it is through a class, private consultation or letting our staff help you with a romantic purchase. Education can be sexy!